- Paired: daily questions, quizzes and relationship exercises.
- Between: a private chat for two, with a shared calendar and memories.
- Lovewick: question card games, date ideas and a little journal.
- Toffee & Bao: feeling close without typing, through hugs, moods and heartbeats.
First, our bias
We make Toffee & Bao, so we're not neutral. We've tried to describe the other apps fairly, based on their own app store listings and websites in October 2026. Features and prices change, so check each app's store page before you choose.
What to look for in a couples app
- What do you want more of? Talking, planning, playing or feeling close? Each app leans a different way.
- Is it private? A couples app should be for the two of you, with no public feed.
- Does it work on both your phones? Check that you can both install it before you get attached.
- Is it free to start? And what does the paid plan add? Does one subscription cover you both?
- Will you actually open it? The best app is the one that fits into your day.
Paired
Paired is built around daily questions, quizzes and games, plus relationship exercises. You each answer the day's question, and you see your partner's answer once you've both replied. A premium plan opens up the full library of activities.
Best for: couples who want structured conversations and to work on their relationship together.
Between
Between is a private messenger for just the two of you. Alongside the chat, it has a shared calendar that counts down to your special days, and a memory box for photos, videos and notes.
Best for: couples who want one private place to chat and keep track of dates and anniversaries.
Lovewick
Lovewick is a couples question game with card decks on topics like values, money and family, plus a library of date ideas and a mini journal. You can also save the little things, like their coffee order or shoe size.
Best for: couples who love question games and want help planning dates.
Toffee & Bao
Toffee & Bao is about feeling close without having to find the right words. Hold a button to send a hug they feel as a buzz, shake your phone to share a mood, tap a heart so they feel your heartbeat live, and keep a shared memory wall. There's a daily question too, a little plant you grow together, and Date Mode for phones-down time.
Best for: couples who spend parts of the day apart (work, shifts, trips or long distance) and want small, playful ways to stay close.
Good to know: Toffee & Bao is launching on Android first. It's free to start, and one Plus subscription covers you both.
Side by side
| App | Known for | Best for |
|---|---|---|
| Paired | Daily questions, quizzes, games and exercises | Deeper conversations |
| Between | Private chat, shared calendar, memory box | Chatting and planning in one place |
| Lovewick | Question card decks, date ideas, journal | Question games and date nights |
| Toffee & Bao | Hugs you can feel, moods with a shake, live heartbeat, memory wall | Feeling close when you're apart |
Which one fits you?
Pick what you want more of, and we'll tell you where to start. Yes, even when it isn't us.
What do you want more of?
Why we made Toffee & Bao
Most couples apps help you talk. We wanted one that helps you feel each other, even in the moments you can't talk: in a meeting, on a night shift, at 3 am in another time zone. That's why everything in Toffee & Bao is a tap, a hold or a shake. More on that in how to feel close when you can't be together.
Quick answers
What is the best app for couples?
It depends on what you want more of. For deep conversations, Paired. For a private chat and a shared calendar, Between. For question games and date ideas, Lovewick. For feeling close through touch and small gestures when you're apart, Toffee & Bao.
What is a good alternative to Paired?
If you like Paired's daily questions but want something more playful, Toffee & Bao has a daily question plus hugs, moods and heartbeats you can feel. Lovewick is another option if you enjoy question games.
What are the best apps for long distance relationships?
Look for apps that help you feel present, not just talk. Toffee & Bao's hugs and heartbeats buzz on your partner's phone wherever they are, and Between's shared calendar helps you count down to your next visit.
A tiny couples app for every moment apart. Hugs they can feel, moods with a shake, a question a day and a memory wall that's just for you two. Coming soon on Google Play.
More guides
Close, even when you can't be together
Busy workdays, opposite shifts, trips or long distance: small rituals that keep you close.
80 questions to ask your partner
Fun, deep, about the future and for when you're apart. Or let Toffee and Bao pick one for you.
Date ideas for couples
Cosy nights in, cheap dates out, dates apart on a call and 15-minute dates for busy days.
Paired, Between and Lovewick are trademarks of their owners. Toffee & Bao isn't affiliated with them. Descriptions are based on publicly available information in October 2026.